It seems highly likely that my father was a Canadian second cousin of my mother, who had spent a year in Canada before she foolishly and unnecessarily (but patriotically) returned to Northern Ireland in 1940.
He, in turn, spent some time in Belfast during the war, serving in the Royal Canadian Air Force. He was alive for most of my life, in contact with my mother almost till the end, corresponded with genealogists researching my grandmother's family (Rutherford), but never once, after his return to Canada in 1946, did he make any contact with me nor involve himself in any decision about my upbringing.
Well...yes and no. We all know what we should do most of a time. I am a firm believer that one must be guided by heart. Call it us you prefer: obligation, soul, duty.. My grandmother used to say: I do not care if you polite (which you should) but I care if you're good.
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It seems highly likely that my father was a Canadian second cousin of my mother, who had spent a year in Canada before she foolishly and unnecessarily (but patriotically) returned to Northern Ireland in 1940.
He, in turn, spent some time in Belfast during the war, serving in the Royal Canadian Air Force. He was alive for most of my life, in contact with my mother almost till the end, corresponded with genealogists researching my grandmother's family (Rutherford), but never once, after his return to Canada in 1946, did he make any contact with me nor involve himself in any decision about my upbringing.
Three cheers for absent fathers!
The only good father is an absent father. Jesus would agree:-)
Well...yes and no. We all know what we should do most of a time. I am a firm believer that one must be guided by heart. Call it us you prefer: obligation, soul, duty.. My grandmother used to say: I do not care if you polite (which you should) but I care if you're good.
My father was, unlike yours, Antoníne, present.
Unfortunately, his contact with me mostly, involved belt.
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